Pole dancing does NOT make us superior beings

Itching for a dance and wanting to keep a girlfriend company, we headed out to Clarke Quay, a prominent nightspot area in Singapore. She suggested visiting a joint to check out the music and I followed along. We had a great time grooving to the tunes churned out by the band and the various singers. When the DJ took over, I felt the pole beckoning me to come and have some fun with it. I obeyed its command.

In high spirits, I climbed up the podium and started dancing with the pole and did some swings. I was having a ball fooling around when all of a sudden, a girl in her early twenties came up the podium. Without a word, she shoved me aside, did a basic invert and left. I was like WTF! Excuse me, your point being? It was totally bewildering and my girlfriend looked horrified. What happened to good old fashion manners? It was totally uncalled for and I was upset because it was a blatant message of- You loser, let me show you how it is done. I didn’t know a pole dancing competition is in progress?!?

Although I did not react, I was quite shakened by the whole episode. Thinking of the incident now still makes my blood turn cold. Shocked by the degree of rudeness we pole dancers are capable of. What makes you think that I am not able to do what you did? And even if I could not do it, does that mean that I cannot have my fun doing my version of pole dancing in a club? Does being pole dancers makes us superior beings? Hell! NO!

Truth be told, this startling phenomenon is not so shocking to me. I have noticed it coming for a long time and I am really heartbroken. Clearly, the monster is ready to devour and conquer. Sometimes I get the impression from certain individuals in the pole dancing community that pole dancing makes us elitist. No doubt we all have great pride in our wonderful art but does that mean that we need to step on others, treat others brusquely, intrude on others space to prove our superiority with the pole? Please do not do that, it makes me feel very ashamed of my own people.

Whether you are practitioner of the pole for its sensuality or its acrobatic elements,  let us all keep it professional and in loving spirit. Being talented comes with responsibility. The responsibility to love our art and make sure that we behave in appropriate manners that will make others respect us and our art. I truly fear the day will come when pole dancing will not be associated with sleaze. Shocking statement but true. Rather, others will go, “Pole dancers? Oh! Those obnoxious and rude bitches!” I used to detest so much the fact that pole dancing has so much sleaze connotations. It is so ironic that now, I realized, there is a bigger and uglier monster out there, waiting to get in.

I love pole dancing and I love all of you who share this great passion of mine. It is magical and it is one of the most wonderful things I have and will ever encounter in my life. I feel very privileged to be a part of this community and I hope that we will grow to greater heights in our skills and in our hearts. Pole dancing does NOT make us superior beings.

Let’s not make giant leaps in our acrobatic abilities and regress in our humanity.

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Pole Jam by SingaPole Events

Kudos to Carla Snajder Naisbitt for stepping up and biting the bullet in her gallant attempt to unite the pole dance industry in Singapore. Do support her in her virgin efforts either by turning up and enjoying the performances of fellow pole dancers and of course by Miss Pole Dance Australia first runner up Amber Ray’s dazzling show or even by doing a spectacular act yourself for all of us! 🙂

We look forward to seeing you there. Get Seven Inch taller polers! 🙂

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Are the Olympics ready for Pole Dancing?

So you think it is all just aimless provocation and senseless grinding of the pole?

Think again.

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/35524563/

Miss Mai Sato represents the growing number of polers who are very serious and deadly committed to their sport.

They trained faithfully to develop their acrobatics skills on the pole.

They embrace bruises and pole burns just to master one more trick.

Where were you and what were you doing when they were burning their skin against the pole and pushing their endurance limit to the next level?

All just aimless provocation and senseless grinding?

Think again.

Please endorse pole dancing into the Olympics.

http://www.petitiononline.com/polympic/petition.html

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Watch out, men on poles

What’s my take on it?

Hmmm…. Seriously? That’s a toughie to answer. I would like to get all possessive about my pole and insist that this is a strictly women’ arena. This is feminine territory, back off all you testosterone inflated creatures! Unfortunately this is not true and the males will be here to stay.

More and more males are becoming interested and intrigued in the art as much as women. Some of the motivations might be similar but generally I believe male and female pole practitioners view the pole very differently. For men, fitness and the mental and physical challenge pretty much sums up their equation. For women, or at least I would like to imagine the majority of us are also attracted to the sensuality that a woman can bring to the pole on top of the fitness aspect. I for one, am very much drawn to that.

When I perform, I feel very safe with the pole, there is something assuring about gripping the steel hard pole. I feel like I have a companion and I am not afraid. And I feel very sexed up too. The moment I grasp it in my hands, the ripples of sensuality will just seep into my entire body as if a dam have broke and all hell breaks loose. I just want to close my eyes and get in touch with the siren within that threatens to consume my entire being. It is a god-damn sexy feeling!

I am not a hard core gymnastic poler because I am also a strong advocator for the sensuality that a woman can demonstrate with the pole. And that is the way I would like SensUal Joy to remain, faithful in our mantra 70% sensuality and 30% tricks and stunts.

Whatever your motivation for the pole may be, whether it is to demonstrate your impressive pole stunts or to illustrate the siren within you, use it to further your sense of self and use it to brighten the world a little with your happy, satisfied and hopefully sensualicious smile on the pole.

Happy pole-ing 🙂

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Pole Dancing Fellowship in Asia

Pole Dancing Fellowship in Asia

The growth of pole dancing in Asia has been phenomenal to say the least. It has exploded into even what used to be deemed as countries with conservative cultures. Pole dancing studios are sprouting up everywhere and many exercise studios are scrambling to include it as part of their service offerings as well.

And of course, little Singapore has also brought it out of the shady nightclubs into the National Day Parade. This is a happy development for all polers in Asia. Together with the power of technology, many have found beautiful friendships and bonded over the lamentations of bruises and stereotypical mindsets they have to fend off especially with Asian culture as it is.

We have also seen Pole Dancing Congress and high quality pole competitions taking place all over in Asia like never before. In fact, it has even seeped its way into the cultural scenes in Singapore with its recent appearance in geitai (shows put up by the Chinese during Hungry Ghost Festival to entertain and appease the spirits that roam the earth during this period) performances. Unbelievable but true.

I of course, had the privilege too to make friends with some of my Asian counterparts. Studio owners and pole students alike. One of them would be Viva Vertical in Malaysia. Brave girls who started their studio in a conservative Muslim country. We need more courageous women like that to make a stand.

If you are involved in the pole community in one way or another and we are not yet acquainted, please come and say hi to me! 🙂

All the best my Asian pole mates, the only way is up from here. Literally! 🙂 LOL

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