Pole dancing does NOT make us superior beings

Itching for a dance and wanting to keep a girlfriend company, we headed out to Clarke Quay, a prominent nightspot area in Singapore. She suggested visiting a joint to check out the music and I followed along. We had a great time grooving to the tunes churned out by the band and the various singers. When the DJ took over, I felt the pole beckoning me to come and have some fun with it. I obeyed its command.

In high spirits, I climbed up the podium and started dancing with the pole and did some swings. I was having a ball fooling around when all of a sudden, a girl in her early twenties came up the podium. Without a word, she shoved me aside, did a basic invert and left. I was like WTF! Excuse me, your point being? It was totally bewildering and my girlfriend looked horrified. What happened to good old fashion manners? It was totally uncalled for and I was upset because it was a blatant message of- You loser, let me show you how it is done. I didn’t know a pole dancing competition is in progress?!?

Although I did not react, I was quite shakened by the whole episode. Thinking of the incident now still makes my blood turn cold. Shocked by the degree of rudeness we pole dancers are capable of. What makes you think that I am not able to do what you did? And even if I could not do it, does that mean that I cannot have my fun doing my version of pole dancing in a club? Does being pole dancers makes us superior beings? Hell! NO!

Truth be told, this startling phenomenon is not so shocking to me. I have noticed it coming for a long time and I am really heartbroken. Clearly, the monster is ready to devour and conquer. Sometimes I get the impression from certain individuals in the pole dancing community that pole dancing makes us elitist. No doubt we all have great pride in our wonderful art but does that mean that we need to step on others, treat others brusquely, intrude on others space to prove our superiority with the pole? Please do not do that, it makes me feel very ashamed of my own people.

Whether you are practitioner of the pole for its sensuality or its acrobatic elements,  let us all keep it professional and in loving spirit. Being talented comes with responsibility. The responsibility to love our art and make sure that we behave in appropriate manners that will make others respect us and our art. I truly fear the day will come when pole dancing will not be associated with sleaze. Shocking statement but true. Rather, others will go, “Pole dancers? Oh! Those obnoxious and rude bitches!” I used to detest so much the fact that pole dancing has so much sleaze connotations. It is so ironic that now, I realized, there is a bigger and uglier monster out there, waiting to get in.

I love pole dancing and I love all of you who share this great passion of mine. It is magical and it is one of the most wonderful things I have and will ever encounter in my life. I feel very privileged to be a part of this community and I hope that we will grow to greater heights in our skills and in our hearts. Pole dancing does NOT make us superior beings.

Let’s not make giant leaps in our acrobatic abilities and regress in our humanity.

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Kudos to Carla Snajder Naisbitt for stepping up and biting the bullet in her gallant attempt to unite the pole dance industry in Singapore. Do support her in her virgin efforts either by turning up and enjoying the performances of fellow pole dancers and of course by Miss Pole Dance Australia first runner up Amber Ray’s dazzling show or even by doing a spectacular act yourself for all of us!

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